Granville Freeman| When the Chicken Should be warned against the Hawk. A case study of the trending hardcore video online.

Few days ago, sex tape of some slay queens were trending online.
All I could read were" wow, they are now celebrities", "It can happen to anybody". Let me use these responses that dominated social media (facebook) and analyse my points.

"Wow, they are now celebrities". How are they now celebrities? Will those girls be given endorsement in xxvideo or condom company?. How are they celebrities? Those who took the same path, how many celebrities have they been crown with and it put food on their table through decent means? So sad that people celebrate what doesn't add value to their future.

When ever nude photos are leaked or video, the next idea is that they are now celebrities. And this "celebrity" illusion has impaired their life and makes it more vulnerable to such similar act. It has also encourage other younger girls to desire such insalubrious popularity. It doesn't take one anywhere but it damages your self esteem, reputation and jeopardizes the future. It makes whoever that will date you in future to crave for sex and objectify your body as a tool for sexual gratification.
What is even the meaning of celebrity? What are we celebrating? Is it seeing what that should be hidden under cloths?.
When a man sees a lady's naked body, two things always happened. In cases where there is no love or family bonding, it is either it triggers his sexual imagination with her or makes him lose respect for her(like, after all I don see so wetin she dey even form like?). But it is totally different for men when they are naked.

"It can happen to anybody". It can never happen to anybody but can only happen to those who share similar personality, mentality and attraction. Iron sharpen iron, they say!!!!. There are thousands of girls who are satisfied with what they have, have self discipline and not loose. I mean, there are girls who will never make friends with guys whose ambitions are just to keep dreadlocks, wear chains, post partying photos and have high likes online as achievement. Those things doesn't drive or move her as a girl. "It can happen to anybody" because what drives them also drives you.
You can't warn the hawk without warning the chicken.Rape or sex without consent is bad. Accepting gift, or money whose content isn't clear is bad. The easiest way to catch a monkey is by giving the monkey banana . Why not make the monkey aware of why the banana is always used/set as trap?

When a guy invites you to his house no mater how holy he is, don't relax your mind that his holiness will prevent anything from happening. If you don't visit a guy you will not die. If you don't have to depend on his flexing or partying/fun abilities you will not die. But when you depend, you are already dying from any outcome yet unknown.

some mistakes would have been avoided if self discipline, contentment, and wisdom were applied when taking decision.

No mater how we preach against rape, it will never reduce but increase. They reason is because some guys use it as fun, some use it as pay back, some use it to get what they want and some use it to "rubbish" the girl(victim) involved.

Some people have been raped without even knowing. The rate at which young guys are exposed to date-rape drugs that coordinates raping is alarming. I mean, they don't have to study pharmacy to know how to interact with drugs to give a desired effect on the victim. There are drugs that affects the memory/brain like rohypnol, ketamine(special k), GBH and others which rapist always use on their victim. There are some that can give such effect through mixture of two or more drugs either chemically or naturally and these boys have access to it.
Alcohol abuse can even trigger rape.

My point is, "food weh you no wan chop, no carry am smell for your nose". what you don't like, don't make yourself available in places that can create what you don't like.
Most rape cases always occur in a guy's house, hotel and a friend's house. Why make yourself available? when even the bar man serving you drink or his friend serving you the food might already be aware of his plans and assist in the plan.

It so lugubrious and pitiful that one of the most difficult things that will stop is rape. so its high time to shift campaign and awareness from "guys say no to rape" to "girls use your sense and apply wisdom".

If pastor could rape, church member could rape a fellow church member, neighbor could rape a little girl and worst of all, father could rape his own daughter. That means this evil act has become a way of life without conscience to some people.

So the girls should be highly educated, targeted with campaigns, build up with knowledge and equipped with common sense. Right now, a girl online is already admiring a young boy's lifestyle whose pictures are full of dreadlocks, shaved eyebrows, and partying (which is very attractive to her and sweeping her off her feet). They are planning for hook up that can hook her life up.

Finally, any girl that is responsible will know how a responsible guy should be and will attract a responsible guy.

There are some girls that guys will never treat or approach the same way they approach other girls online because they look at your picture, content of post and response of message.

For the guys, when you rape a lady you either enhances her suicidal ideation or Post Traumatic Stress Disorders. And if she dies as a result of depression which led to suicidal ideation, you are a murderer, a killer and a soul taker. They were made out of your own ribs, is this how you treat your own ribs? Your ribs protects the lungs and heart which are the vital organs in your body, so is she vital and deserve protection and care.

Wisdom, they say is profitable. So in all thy getting get wisdom.

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